Signs of Low Self-esteem in Women

Women who show signs of low self-esteem have a damaged sense of self-worth that most likely began in childhood. Adolescent and teenage girls are at particular risk of developing low self-esteem because of the many forms of media--television, magazines, advertising and websites--that emphasize impossible standards of beauty and appearance. Low self-esteem can lead to serious physical and mental health issues.

History

Women with low self-esteem were often mistreated by authority figures and peers while growing up. Girls who are criticized, ignored, or physically or verbally abused, and who do not experience success in school or other areas such as sports, often show signs of low-self-esteem. As pre-teens, girls begin to focus on their physical appearance and sexual appeal as a measure of their self-worth. The sexualization of girls in the media and the stress of not being able to live up to idealized ideas of how a girl should look and act can also interfere with the development of self-esteem.

Types of Low Self-Esteem

Low self-esteem takes many forms, each with different signs. Some women with low self-esteem act as if they are happy and successful when they are actually afraid of failure. Perfectionism, competitiveness and procrastination are all signs of this type of low self-esteem. Other women with low self-esteem might act defiantly, as if rules don't apply to them or other people's opinions don't matter, especially anyone in authority. Breaking rules and blaming others are signs of this type of low self-esteem. Women who act helpless and who are unable to make decisions for themselves and who routinely follow other people's lead, might also be showing a form of low self-esteem. Underachievement, lack of assertiveness and leaning heavily on others to take the lead are all signs of this type of low self-esteem.

Effects of Low Self-Esteem

Many of the signs of low self-esteem not only prevent a woman from fully enjoying her life but can also have real and serious effects on physical and mental health. As self-esteem spirals downward, a woman's physical and mental health might decline to the point where there is a risk of hurting herself or someone else.

Prevention

Parents can help their daughters develop a strong sense of self-worth by monitoring their behavior and watching for signs of low self-esteem. To do this, the New York University Child Study Center recommends asking your daughter questions about the effect of advertising and other media images on her own sense of self-worth. Does she feel a need to own certain brand names or change her appearance in order to feel good about herself or feel accepted by others? Pointing out the effects of media and discussing it with your daughter can help her take control of her self-esteem.

Solution

Adult women can learn to be more confident and diminish the signs of low self-esteem by taking better care of themselves. The U.S. government's Center for metal health servises recommends women with low self-esteem take active steps to treat themselves better and find ways to feel better about themselves. These steps might include avoiding procrastination, making time for enjoyable activities, putting talents and special abilities to good use and spending more time with friends.

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Fanie Fourie lobola Movie Review

Fanie Fourie lobola 

When two people from completely different cultures fall in love, it isn’t expected to be roses and paddles. Misunderstandings and cultural barriers and clashes are expected, but those when these people come from South Africa, one of the most divided and diverse countries on the planet, be assured that disaster and hilarity will ensue.

Fanie Fourie is a 2013 South African romantic comedy based on a novel (of the same name) by Nape a Montana. The film Features a culturally diverse cast of actors as well as a production team. The main focus of the film is cross cultural relationships and challenges associated with such relationships.  Nape’a wrote in both English and Sepedi. I believe, while the film is in Zulu, English and Afrikaans (fully subtitled). It begins with a silly dare between brothers, and is an honest and positive story reflecting accurate and nuanced complex relationships between black and white in South Africa. Having said that it is definitely a romantic comedy because it makes you laugh and cry.

The situations are true-to-life, many of these attitudes –especially of the older people are very recognisable and you end uprooting for the hero and heroine in a big way.

The movie is a lovely metaphor for a changing South Africa and if people are still living by the apartheid mind-set, I doubt they would the movie interesting or relevant to them. This film like stated above is a movie about interracial couple who want to get married. Fanie is the Afrikaner guy who’s fallen in love with Dinky, a Zulu. Nowadays, such a marriage is becoming more and more common in South Africa. Up until about 20 years ago, such a marriage was illegal and might have sent the couple to prison. But now, the country is enjoying a certain level of acceptance for such relationships though the cultural differences are massive and go far beyond colour. He speaks afrikaansa variant of Dutch that is been spoke by white settlers since the 17^th century. She speaks IsiZulu. The film is in both languages including English. In fact, South Africa has 11 different official languages that is why the movie is subtitled and the differences are greater yet which you’ll discover when you see the film.

While Fanie and Dinky’s families are having a hard time accepting this marriage, there so is a cultural problem Fanie didn’t anticipate, the lobola. This is a dowry that the groom must pay the bride’s father in order to get his permission to marry his daughter. In the film, Dinky said this felt like Fanie had to buy her but her father insists on doing things the old fashioned way. Not that the African tradition of the brides price is attacked in the movie. Dinky herself gets to point out to her father why it feels demanding to be treated like a chattel being transferred from one owner to another, but the overall perspective of the movie is studiedly neutral. It has to be: the two cultural clashes must be treated even-handily, with each given the space to express itself. Thus Faniea mother (Marga van Rooy) is also able to express her tradition, which means white Afrikaner objection to miscegenation, and its not labelled as outright racism any more than Dinkys dads views are shown to be oppressively patriarchal sexism.

There is one problem with the Lobola, however Fanie is a struggling artist and like most struggling artist, he is poor, And, a slick and handsome black man, Mandla has already offered the lobola for Dinky’s hand and he’s quiet wealthy.   What is the very nice but somewhat nerdy Fanie to do?How can he provide for the lobola and get the woman of his dreams?

When you watch the movie you learn that there are a few benefits out of an interracial relationship and there are as follows:

> You get tolerant about another culture or religion while you teach the opposite race your religion.

> You get exposed to new ways of thinking as to being stereotyped.

> You incorporate aspects of the culture/race/religion into your daily life.

>Become stronger in what you believe.

> Having an incredible experience with someone you love and respect.

> Possibly learning a new language.

> Being exposed to another country and learning about it.

>By example teaching others around you that the relationship is like any other, with challenges but worth it. A and that if you care what other people have to say about your relationship and you stand by what you believe you can make it through and continue to be a happe interracial couple.

My point is the advantage of dating someone is actually experiencing possibly good, loving and compassionate relationship, where you can grow with another person. Regardless of the race, if you don’t have that kind of foundation in the marriage or relationship or even throughout it, then you are seriously going to lose each other,.

Fanie Fouries Loolais a fantastic and painfully honest dissection of South Africa. 

Stereotypes are being examined and blown apart, subcultures are parodied and both Zulu ad Afrikaans cultures are put under the directors’ microscope. Running through the film, the casual yet pervasive white South African culture and the distrust that black South Africans often have for their white counterparts. The discrepancy between the exclusive gated mostly white neighbourhoods and more modest life in the townships will still tackled where relative wealth in the townships will still yield les ostentatious lifestyles than that in the suburbs.

I love that Fanie and Dinky were just normal, down to earth South Africans, that there was nothing special about either of them until they met each other.  Eduan van Jaarsveld and Zethu Dhlomo are superb in their roles as Fanie and Dinky. They out did their interpretation of the interracial marriage and show case are free South Africa that is still undergoing such circumstances.

I would recommend this movie for everyone. Its a must watch!!!

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